Instead, the conversation came from my older sister. She explained things to me one afternoon, sitting cross-legged on her bed and all because I asked her what the word “shit” meant.
On one hand, I was a worldly 11-year-old because I already knew much of what she told me about sex. I was privy to that information thanks to my dear friend who gave me the scoop in the alleyway behind her house one day. Yet, I was naïve because I did not know what a common slang word meant.
Well, Sis, I still have a few questions. It all started last week when I overheard a conversation on the elevator. Two men were talking about another man, who at 75 just had a baby with his much younger wife. That started the wheels turning in my brain and I got to thinking about why a woman can’t have a baby beyond 50 or after menopause, yet a man can father a baby until he dies.
Sure, it is a sigh of relief for most women not to have to worry about getting pregnant at 50, and it would surely take its toll on her body, but I wonder why a man’s biology doesn’t work in a similar fashion. Could it be nature’s way of ensuring that humans continue to reproduce? Even if their wife or partner, assuming they are with someone close to their age, cannot reproduce, does nature make them crave and seek out a younger woman who can? Is it simply nature’s course for men to desire more than one partner so they can continue to populate the earth? And is this drive something that women are supposed to accept?
As humans, we continue to evolve, and at a much quicker pace than our ancestors. For example, statistics show that 35% of people are now born without wisdom teeth, and that our jaws are smaller than our ancestors were. Our brains are shrinking as well, suggesting we have to rely on them less than our ancestors did to survive. All of this points to one thing; our bodies evolve because our lifestyle changes. It may not happen overnight, but it does happen.
Or, does it? From the dawn of man, when a young girl of 13 or so began to menstruate, it was a sign that she was ready to have children. Considering people lived shorter lives generations ago, it seems acceptable that 13 was once considered adulthood.
By the beginning of the 20th century, the age of marriage increased to about 18 or so, and today, it has climbed o the late 20s, early 30s, or higher. Yet most girls still begin their cycles at the same young age. Does this indicate that young girls are supposed to continue with the same timeline and have children as teens? Do both of these facts – young girls beginning their cycle and older men continuing to procreate — indicate that nature encourages these connections?
The ability to have children is wonderful, yet is it a woman’s only purpose like nature may indicate? How else can you explain that a woman’s health often declines after menopause, once she has outlived her usefulness.
So many questions, and so few answers. Can anyone make sense of this?
And why do these scenarios seem to favor men? Mother Nature is a woman, after all.